I was perturbed by the news that this person is dead when just a few days ago he/she was fine and looked lovely on the front page of a local newspaper.
I was confused and still confused by the whole debacle. This incident could be avoided by proper handling of the situation. There are many people like him/her that need to be managed properly, unfortunately we do not have such department and organisation to undertake the task. Like many of us, we are in the dark of so many things and when anything befalls us, we simply do not know what to do, where to go and who to turn to.
For example even though there is Talian Nur, there are many women, too many infact, who do not know what to do when they are abused by their husbands. Even the neighbours who know what was going on just next door are lost. When wife abusing is so common and yet so many are in the dark, how do you expect cases like Aleesha would be? He/she would definitely be on her/his own to solve, manage and do what is right and what is best in her/his opinion. This lead to more complicated and more serious problems. There must be something wrong or ineffective in our social care system.
The big question is, Is there a way out for Aleesha? I don’t know, I am asking you. You, the people who are learned enough not to just give a “No” for and answer but provide a way out, a next best solution.
I want to narrate here roughly one well known incident during the time of the Prophet Muhammad (pbuh);
- One day the Prophet Muhammad (pbuh) had to save a man from being caught by a group of people who wanted to harm him. The Prophet (pbuh) saw the man running infront of him and when he was approached by the group of people chasing and being asked whether he (the Prophet) saw a man running passing by and knowing that the man was a good person the Prophet (pbuh) took a step back and replied that he did not see anybody running while he was standing at that position.
The holy Prophet (pbuh) has shown us a way of getting out of a very awkward situation and still no harm or no lying was necessary. He gave us the next best solution.
Many people argued that the court had to stop this “madness” because once the gate is opened there will be flood of people wanting to change their names too.
My answer is, each and every individual must be judged accordingly based on the peculiar type of problem. This is how people should be judged and not by the “class action” approach. Nevermind if the process is lengthy and tedious but there is always hope for them, a light at the end of the long tunnel.
My only hope after this sad episode is that, let not Ashraf/Aleesha die in vain but with the dark clouds moving slowly to expose a silver lining. Al-Fatihah for Ashraf.